It may seem like a tall order, but it’s easier than you think to throw a classy, modern-day soirée. Follow these party-planning basics to shower any bride in style.
How to Plan Around Uneven Wedding Parties
Q. My fiance and I have hit a road block in planning our wedding party. He has many close guy friends wants at least seven groomsmen (preferably more). I only have about four very close girls and one or two girls beyond that that I feel somewhat close to. I would love to have my four girls be my bridesmaids and that's it. He wants me to find at least three more and is not into the idea of an uneven number of bridemaids and groomsmen. What should we do?
A. The choosing of bridal party participants is certainly one of the more compromising subjects that a bride and groom have to decide on when planning their wedding. There are so many feelings that become involved when making these decisions, not only with the couple but also the friends and family you include or may not include. Stick to the principal that it is your day and that you should be making decisions together that make you happy and that resembles you as a couple.
Ensure you both talk through all of your options and then determine the importance of this detail for your wedding day. You want to make sure that you are surrounded by people you love, people who support you and your new life together and people you will want to see in pictures when you look back decades from now. I strongly suggest you don’t place people in your wedding just to fill a gap; this is not fair to anyone involved and may create unwanted drama for you during the planning of and possibly on the day of your wedding.
Walk through the financial aspects of this decision with your fiancé. Adding another three bridesmaids could very easily tack on another $500+ to your bridal party budget based on what you are providing for them. Reminder: when it comes to bridesmaids there are many more costs than groomsman: dress, shoes, jewelry, hair/makeup, flowers and more.
Here are a few suggestions I have for you to discuss that will help you both make the best decision together:
Ushers – have the remaining guys he would like to include as ushers in the wedding, this makes for a very important role with in the wedding and it distinguishes them as close friends of his.
If he insists on having more guys stand up for him here are a few ways to incorporate them into the processional and recessional that does not require you to "pair" up people:
- All guys enter with your groom from the side and the ladies enter separately down the aisle. For the recessional have the maid of honor and best man walk back together and the remaining bridal party walk with two groomsman to one bridesmaid OR the last two groomsman can walk out with the flower girl/ring bearer
- If you want the bridal party to enter together, have two groomsman escorting one bridesmaid, and then the maid of honor and best man come together
- Two groomsman escort your flower girl/ring bearer
- The entire bridal party walk in separately
- Two groomsman to escort in family ahead of time and remain at the alter
- Two-three groomsman prep the aisle for the brides entrance, pull the aisle runner out, light candles for a dramatic entrance and then have them join the rest of the groomsman
Your photographer will be able to space out your bridal party to ensure they won’t look lopsided.
There are so many possibilities to make this ceremony so unique to your situation and your guests will love the variety of a different ceremony. Do not be afraid to entertain any of these ideas as your ceremony will be beautiful and wonderful no matter how many friends and family are standing up with you. This will be the first of many compromises with not only wedding planning but also in your new life together just make sure each other is heard and respected and work through it together.
Congratulations on your upcoming wedding, remember to relax and enjoy!