Showered with Love: Tips for Planning a Modern Bridal Shower Celebration

“Traditions are changing and evolving from what they were 30 years ago,” says Jennifer Rosen, owner of Rosetree Weddings & Events, a Minneapolis-based event planning team. “Wedding showers now can be a mix of whatever the couple would like.”

So if that’s gathering your loved ones for an intimate brunch at home, great. Or if you’d rather, use this opportunity to give instead of receive, round up your friends for a day of volunteering. Or even a new-to-you activity—how does a wreath-making class or wine-tasting sound?—surrounded by your best gals. The options are endless.

Jennae Saltzman, owner and senior lead planner of Twin Cities-based Blush & Whim, agrees. “Instead of the game-focused, at-home showers of the past, mothers and bridesmaids are now renting out stylish venues and hosting elaborate brunches, luncheons and dinner parties focused on more thoughtful and personal details,” she says.

No matter your wedding-shower style, encourage your hostess to plan a party that best suits you, even if it means doing away with tradition. Think more social, less formal; more inclusive (perhaps invite your spouse for a couple’s shower), less ladies-only; more details, less sitting in a circle ooh-ing and ahh-ing over registry items.

Let’s break down what you—and your hostess—need to know about the basics: gifts (do you have to open them in front of everyone?), favors (necessary or no?) and most importantly, where to host the shindig.

Hostess With the Mostess
Listen up, hostesses: “Never assume you know what the bride wants,” Rosen warns. “Always consider her over what you think is best.” For instance, ask if she’d like her mother or future mother-in-law to attend, or if this should be a friends-only affair. It’s OK if she says no; perhaps they’re planning a separate family event.

Also, ask the bride how she’d like to handle gifts. If the thought of opening gifts in front of a crowd—even a crowd of loved ones who were happy to check off items on your registry—makes the bride anxious, leave out that part; it’s not necessary, say the experts. “The couple or bride can give a small speech thanking guests for coming and for their gifts. They, of course, will also send thank- you notes after opening them later,” says Rosen. (That thank-you part is necessary, so don’t forget to do it!)

Calling In a Favor
Saltzman suggests keeping the gifts in an out-of-sight location during the shower, then acknowledging your guests with favors or individual place-setting notes as a sign of gratitude.

“Sending your guests away with a thoughtful and personalized favor is always a hit,” says Saltzman.No need to go grand, though. Keep favors small, personal and, for a dose of Minnesota pride, local. Think potted succulents or cacti from Northeast Minneapolis’ (available by appointment only in winter months), mini champagne bottles, personalized cookies from or the , boxes of mini macarons or cookies from or , beeswax candles from the or botanical art prints from local artists or .You could also scour the locally made goods at in Excelsior, or if you want someone else to do the shopping for you, pop over to site, where they’ve curated beautifully boxed selections of Minnesota-made products.Now, for the big event. First you have to nail down the two trickiest parts of party planning: where and what.First decide if you’d like to keep this an at-home event or if you’d rather rent a space. For somewhere in between, scour home-rental sites for a big, beautiful lakeside cabin. Other spots like and Nicollet Island Inn rent their space, as do and . You could also rent out your favorite restaurant. Saltzman loves bright, airy spots such as the , the and —all perfect for mimosas and mingling.As for the what, “doing some sort of activity to break the ice with guests who may not know each other is always a good idea,” says Saltzman. For example, you could hire a florist to assemble floral crowns or petite arrangements, or bring in a calligrapher so everyone can help make DIY signs for the wedding, or perhaps a sommelier to teach you about wines from your honeymoon destination (with plenty of sampling so you know how they taste). You could also book a private session with , choosing from any of its creative workshops.If you’d rather give back on your day to receive, Rosen recommends packing food at , with locations throughout the metro area, then gathering your good feelings and heading out to dinner afterwards.You could also assign a theme, says Saltzman. Perhaps an elegant all-white affair or a co-ed Jack and Jill get-together—or how about a glam pajama party? For a brunch shower, you could assemble a make-your-own waffle or mimosa bar. And when in doubt: puppies! hosts “puppy parties,” where the rescue group will bring a litter of at least three puppies to your event for play and some serious cuteness. (It also helps socialize the pups.)No matter what you do, where you go, or whether you open gifts at the party or not, remember what really matters: being surrounded by those you love most, celebrating your special time. Now, go party.